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The Fears of a Father

The other day my 17-year-old asked me to teach him how to drive, of course, I said yes I will teach you. I started to think about how this is one of the father-son bonding moments. You know those moments like teaching him to play a sport or having that first talk about girls. Teaching him how to drive would be a memory that lasts forever, we would laugh at his mistakes and rejoice when he finally get the hang of it. These are the times in life when you enjoy being a parent when it just you and your son having a good time joking and laughing with one another. I went to his room and told him to go online and start studying the driver’s manual so he can go get his permit as soon as possible. After he gets the permit we can start his driving lessons.

A few days later my son came to me again and said he has finished reading the driver’s manual and he is ready to take the test. I said are you sure you are ready he said I am more than ready. I told him good we will go next week to the Department of Motor Vehicles so he can take the test. A couple of hours after this conversation my son returns, he asks me “ Dad after I pass the driver’s test, graduate from High School and starts College can you buy me a car?” I said, of course, we can get you a used car for when you go away to college. My son hug, thank me and left the room.

As soon as my son left the room a chill came over my body and my mind instantly went to Philando Castile. A fear came over me that I have never felt before I did not want my son to learn how to drive anymore. A moment that is supposed to be one of the best moments between a father and his son was taken away from me. My dream of reliving the time spent teaching my son how to drive car may not be that enjoyable to me anymore because I will always fear for his safety.

I know everyone will say you cannot let that stop you from living your life and enjoying special moments with your child. I know I will enjoy teaching him how to drive and we will have special memories from these times but there will be that fear lingering in the background. Other parents have the fear of the children getting into car accidents but as black parents, we have the additional fear of him encountering the wrong policer officer while driving. I am not going to let him know about my fears but I know I will not be able to sleep at night when he gets his car.

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Have We Forgotten

In Case You Forgot

 

In Case you forgot is an article written by Michael Harriot for The Root.com (link below). This article discusses the more recent police shooting, according to the article there has been 237 people shot and killed by the police since the beginning of 2017. The article goes on to outline some questionable shootings involving Black victims and have we forgot about this continuous slaughter of Black people.

My question is have we forgotten or are we desensitized about the subject. Have we become familiar with killings or have we accepted the killings as part of our lives in America. If either are true then Black Americans are doomed. I am not sure either premise is true, I offer another premise. Do we only care when it is popular to express our outrage? I ask this because when there is a video, a hashtag, or the incident is trending online there seems to be more outrage. Are we waiting for someone or the majority of society to decide this is something to voice our opinion about or march in the streets for. In some odd way I believe the victim’s families would like the outcry for justice that some of the other victims received, they may want their stories told across the nation, depicting how they are loved and how people who were dear to person are heartbroken as a result of a killer cop. Colin Kaepernick kneeling did not open the eyes to those who do not see the injustice, maybe if we scream loud enough after each killing people will start to understand that these incident were not isolated. Instead of the media trying to turn the victims into criminals they would have to listen because our screams would be deafening. It is my opinion that the reason why people hate Colin Kaepernick so much is that he has help expose America’s misdeeds to the world. If we screamed loud after each murder the rest of the world will have no choice but to listen and America does not want to appear to be evil to the rest of the world. I believe by remaining silent we are contributing to the deaths that will occur in the near future. If there is no payment for misdeeds the misdeeds will multiply.

Have we forgotten?

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